PARENTING ARTICLES : ARE YOU A HANDS-ON OR HANDS-OFF PARENT? By Dr.Maryann Rosenthal
Which one are you? Take the test to determine whether you are a “hands-on”, “halfhearted” or “hands-off” parent? The following are the big 12 indicators used in the survey to differentiate the parenting styles. According to the researchers at the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse “hands-on” parents agreed with at least 10 of the 12 indicators, “half-hearted” parents committed to about 6, and “hands-off” parents followed 5 or fewer of the rules.
• Parents expect to be told where the child is going in the evening or on weekends and is told the truth by the youngster.
• Parents have made clear they would be very upset if their teen tried marijuana.
• There are not periods of time after school or on weekends when parents do not know where the child is.
• Parents monitor what the child is watching on television.
• Parents impose restrictions on the kind of music the child is allowed to buy.
• Parents are very aware of how the child is doing in school.
• Parents monitor the child’s internet usage.
• The family typically has dinner together 6 nights a week.
• The child has a weekend curfew.
• An adult is always at home when the child returns from school.
• The child is responsible for completing regular chores.
• The television is not on during dinner.
HANDS-ON PARENTING WORKS!
Dr. Maryann Rosenthal is a highly respected clinical psychologist on family dynamics and best selling author of Be A Parent, Not A Pushover, recently selected as a book of the year on effective parenting. She is a featured authority on regional and national television and a global keynote speaker. She co-authored with Denis Waitley, the new family leadership program, The Seeds of Greatness System taught worldwide. Maryann lives in southern California with her husband and their blended family of seven children and six grandchildren (and counting).
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